At first, I was going to simply ignore this; but it kept eating away. The Trump campaign—and Trump himself—have long maintained the ideology of the patriarchy. Women shouldn’t work; women must fit a finite definition of beauty; they are gold diggers; pets to be paraded around for his inspection, gratification, and sense of entitlement. Women who don’t comply are abused. Debased. Humiliated (as are many who do comply). The list of women he has treated in an abusive manner goes on seemingly ad infinitum.
But it’s more than that. It’s the subtly of the patriarchy. Mexicans are rapist—we must protect our women, the weaker sex. A message moves through that. It supports the idea that women are helpless. Women are accessories. Ick.
And I thought to ignore it all – he is playing to a very specific audience. An audience, who, like him, is insecure (maybe not about the meaning of small hands but…). An audience afraid of being usurped by immigrants, by non-Christians, by people of color, by people with disabilities, by babies crying—by anyone not them. Even veterans and families of dead soldiers have not escaped his scorn. He is pandering to a group of individuals in our nation who are used to being at the top of the food chain, even if financially, educationally, morally, intellectually they’re not, by virtue of being white and male.
But it is difficult for me to ignore sexism. And I reached my limit when Eric Trump said, “Ivanka is a strong, powerful woman, she wouldn’t allow herself to be [subjected] to it, and by the way, you should take it up with Human Resources, and I think she would as a strong person, at the same time, I don’t think she would allow herself to be subjected to that.” What. The. Fuck. Being strong and powerful elicits harassment—from exactly the crowd your father is inciting. Such harassment can be blatant:
“I bet you make a great wife” D. Trump 2005.
“He asked the men to rate the women — he went down the line and asked the guys, ‘Who’s the most beautiful on the women’s team?’ ” D. Trump 2010.
Or how about this:
“Heidi Klum. Sadly, she’s no longer a 10.” D. Trump, again in August 2015.
Or even the infamous remark about how he’d date Ivanka if she were not his daughter! That’s sexual harassment. Blatant. Overt. Insulting, not just to Ivanka, but to all women.
On a more subtle level, blaming Bill’s infidelities on Hillary, only insisting that Fiorina stop interrupting during the debates, putting the onus of rape in the military on the women, men and women simply shouldn’t be housed together—what else can we expect from this? Um—how about that men be responsible for their actions? How about we deny the patriarchy this rebirth, abort!
Oh right, not in the patriarchy. Certainly not in Donald Trump’s world. Who are we that we have come to a place in which it is a reality that he is a viable presidential candidate? Who are we?
I now live in a world in which it is likely I will be casting a ballot similar to George & George W. A ballot that will mirror Mitt Romney… If you are an average white man, try to be as enlightened as (god forgive me, I am committing this to print) George Bush and Mitt Romney. And ladies, we are the majority in this country—we’ve come a long way, don’t let sexual harassment turn you away from the polls in November. We are more than just pretty faces, Mr. Trump—we are the most educated, most upwardly mobile part of our society. And we vote.
And we vote. I’m with her.